I once loved someone deeply, making calls, writing love letters, and bringing breakfast. I also helped with chores like fetching water, giving gifts, and accompanying them to and from work, yet we eventually parted ways. A comment once read: 'Anyone can do these things; it is not that you are irreplaceable. If you do it this time, someone else can do it next time, and they won't remember you. What you really need to do is spend time making yourself better, rather than staying entangled with the other person. Only by becoming superior to everyone else is the true path to strength.'
Regarding resumes: 80% of resumes are identical in terms of awards, ethnicity, height, subjects, and school positions, differing only in names. 80% use transparent covers with colorful plastic clips, and recommendation letters almost always begin by thanking the interviewer for taking time out of their busy schedule. The moment you use these clichés that everyone can write without thinking, interviewers will silently categorize you as a mass-produced, ordinary candidate.
To gain experiences you have never had, you must give up certain things. There is no absolute way to have it all in this world; it is simply about what you desire more. If you seek comfort, you must abandon challenges. If you want to move forward, you must abandon staying put. If you refuse to be laughed at, you can only live one way for your entire life.
In society, truly exceptional individuals are rare; most newcomers possess only 30% of the required competence. When facing unfamiliar tasks, some dare to take on the challenge, acting as if they have 50% of the capability. Once they persist and complete the task, they acquire at least 70% competence. Others will then say, 'See, they were always good at it.' In reality, everyone started the same; the difference is merely that some lacked the fearlessness to try.
Living in the eyes of others leads to losing oneself in one's own world. Using others' principles to demand of yourself is not entirely infeasible. However, there are thousands of people in the world, including sensible ones and fools, the clever and the foolish. If you cannot discern these differences using your own principles, you will only allow others to live in your world, while you lose control over your own life.
